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I have had such a nice weekend. Despite the negative comments, which is expected from what I can only describe as very jealous narrow minded hypocritical asian men, I plan to see Dante again next weekend.
He came round on Saturday night, I didn’t have anything planned and wasn’t sure whether i’ll be going out to the pictures or for a meal, so I wore my favourite jeans, a slinky top and put my hair up in curls. I had been nervous the whole day, Raeni was trying her best to help and was dancing around the living room telling me all about Jamaica. She was very pleased that I was going out with a Jamaican man and was already planning the honeymoon!
I have not been out with someone properly since my ex boyfriend. Dates with him use to consist of being picked up around the corner from my mum’s house, going to the Trafford Centre to watch a Bollywood movie and then getting a quick bite to eat at one of the restaurants. If we had some extra time, that will be taken up by making out in the back seat of his car which will be parked in some dimly lit car park.
My ex husband never even took me out, he never learnt how to.
But on Saturday I felt very much like a lady, I had my own house and my date was coming to meet me in my home, there was no hiding from parents, I didn’t feel like the awkward teenager that I was when I met my ex boyfriend, I felt like a woman, I had grown up and now I wanted to be treated like a lady despite the nerves that where working overtime in my stomach.
Dante was 40 mins late getting to mine. I resisted from ringing to see where he was and at one point thought he wasn’t going to turn up. Raeni had gone out for the night and I was beginning to think that turning up late wasn’t a very good sign at all. Just as I was about to give up on him, I heard his Golf R32 pull up outside.
He rang the door bell and I almost tripped running to the door. I held a book in my hand pretending that I was too busy reading to even notice that he had been late.
On the doorstep stood Dante wearing a white T-shirt, which showed off his build, he was very toned and muscular, complete opposite to my ex whose t-shirt often fit me very nicely. He wore faded jeans and very bright blue trainers, which actually looked nice. In his hands he was holding two bags of what looked like groceries.
Dante apologised for being late and said he had wanted to surprise me with a home cooked meal. The reason he was late was because he bought the chicken from Asda and then remembered I was Muslim so had to run into Longsight and pick up a halal chicken from one of the shops and with traffic everywhere he got a bit late.
I told him it was sweet but that I hadn’t even noticed he was late.
Anyway he went straight into the kitchen and started taking his shopping out and told me he was going to make Jamaican jerk chicken and rice. I was surprised he could cook. But he told me he was a great chef and that I should just relax. Oh he did notice my hair and clothes and told me I looked very sexy. But I was still so nervous and was making cups of tea to calm my nerves down.
Dante was born and raised in Manchester, his parents had emigrated from Jamaica as young children. His mum was four-years-old when she came to Manchester. At the time most Jamaican families lived very near each other, mainly in Hulme and then moved to Moss Side and as more people came from Jamaica they all settled around each other.
It’s a bit like the Asian community who settled in certain areas of the city in the 60s, they all had one thing in common, to work and go back to their home country. But like Dante’s family and I suppose even mine, they all eventually remained in the UK making this their home. Like us Asians, Dante was also sent to Jamaica for holidays to learn about his own culture and roots. He told me about the villages he had visited where chickens were freshly slaughtered for dinner every night, it was a bit like Bangladesh, the last time I was there my dad had fresh chicken almost every day, they use to run around free all the time.
Dante’s mum had taught all her children how to cook and he loved Jamaican dishes along with fish and chips. Like me he saw himself as British, after all we are British born, but he had a lot of respect for his own cultural background.
I found Dante really interesting, in many ways his community was so similar to ours, we were’t that different at all. He was very passionate about things and he found me and my culture fascinating too. I was the first Asian girl he had been out with.
He kept on telling me how beautiful he thought I was and he couldn’t stop staring at me when he first met me. I’d never been complimented so much in my life, at times i’d have a sneak look at the mirror to see what he saw. I never thought of myself as drop dead gorgeous but that’s how he made me feel.
To top it off the meal was fantastic. There’s one thing I am not shy about and that’s eating. He filled my plate up with rice and chicken and it went down fast. The food was delicious and am still craving some more. He was surprised that I was such a big eater, I told him I loved food especially when it was as tasty as his jerk chicken and promised to cook him a meal very soon.
After dinner, I quickly washed the dishes and we settled in the lounge. At that point I was even more nervous. I was hoping he wasn’t expecting sex that night, there was no way I was going to give myself away to a man that I had just met, and I didn’t want to sound like a prude by telling him I didn’t want to have sex, he might not have even thought about it and I didn’t want to make a fool out of myself, but it just made me even more nervous and I even stuttered a few times.
I think he was able to sense this. We had the TV on and was I just chatting about Desperate Housewives and I was insisting that he must watch it. But I was sat at one end of the couch and he was on the other, not particularly cosy. He then started moving close and I thought I was going to release a hundred butterflies flying straight from my stomach and out of my mouth.
He took my hands into his and started stroking my face, telling me how soft my skin was. He was looking directly into my eyes and was moving forward. I hadn’t kissed a man since my ex boyfriend. I had never kissed my husband and wasn’t sure what to do nut I saw myself fall into his arms as he kissed me softly. Instead of holding back I kissed him back, but it was nice and soft and sent a tingly feeling down my back.
He then moved his head away from mine, put one arm around me and held my hands with the other. I wasn’t nervous after that. We sat on the sofa watching a bit of TV but mainly talking. He left as Raeni walked in at 2am, the time again had just flown by.
We arranged to meet again this weekend and he said he might even pop around in the week but will let me know.
After he left I plopped on the sofa and couldn’t stop thinking about the nice time we had. He made me feel wonderful.

I’d been feeling a little down recently. It started on valentines day – I wasn’t pining for the ex – trust me that was the last thing on my mind – but I just thought it would have been nice to cuddle up to someone and share a romantic meal – it didn’t help when I had also watched ‘Maine Pyar Kiya’ for the umpteenth time and it made me feel even more miserable.
What really trigerred it off that day was a conversation I had with a few male and female friends at lunch on Valentines day.
Whilst my female friends were telling me not to feel so down and that I will one day meet ‘Prince Charming’, my so-called male friends who are British born Bangladeshis told me that next time I went back to Bangladesh I will have to look harder.
I told them there will not be a next time in Bangladesh – I reminded them I had no intention to ever settle down with a man from that country again. They told me I really had no choice because 99 per cent of British born Bangladeshi men will not marry a girl who had already been married and therefore I had no chance of settling down with a Bengali man from the UK.
Me and my female friends were shocked – I was pissed off. I am in no hurry to marry someone, far from it, but to hear men, born and raised in the UK, educated and in city centre jobs talk like cave men (not that I know what cave men talk like but you know what I mean) really hit a nerve,
My female friends jumped to my defence and told them that i can easily meet a nice decent Bangladeshi man. But this made them laugh which irritated me even more. Then I thought – hang on – that was just the problem, because I’m Bangladeshi I automatically think I must meet a Bangladeshi man and settle down. I told them that did not have to be the case and if Bangladeshi men from the UK thought that of women like me, then I’d rather look outside of the Bangladeshi community.
Well that didn’t go down too well with them at all. They don’t want to marry a divorced woman but they can’t bear to see a man from a completely different community go near me, they couldn’t have it both ways I told them, and I told them they can take their narrow minded views somewhere else because I didn’t want to be around people who thought like that. I’m lucky that I have quite an independent life, but what about women who have children and are divorced? These men must think that they are untouchables? I can’t believe that they have grown up here and are so narrow minded.
I went home feeling just pissed off and then disheartened. My white male colleagues think nothing of being with a woman who has had previous relationships, yet some of these Asian men still want a virgin bride even though they might have been around the block a few times. It’s as though they don’t feel like a man if they can’t have a virgin on their wedding night. I really do wonder sometimes which country and what age we are living in. Even if I did meet a man outside of the Bengali community, it will be scandal I thought. There are plenty of Bengali men and women dating Pakistani people for example, but to marry one will cause world war, seriously.
But just as I was analysing all this in my head over a cup of warm tea, my new housemate had arrived.
Yes, I have got a new housemate, I live in a three bedroom house by myself and sometimes it can get a little lonely and, well not only could I do with some company, but I could do with the extra money as well. I interviewed a few women, but the housemate I chose was someone who I clicked with instantly, we both enjoyed RnB music, she’s even watched a couple of Bollywood films and loves a good curry, she loves cooking and she is obsessed with cleaning, which I don’t mind because I too like to keep my house in order. She’s a Jamaican girl called Raeni and has been living in Manchester for five years and was a waitress at a cafe down town.
I was looking forward to her moving in.
That night two of her friends came to help her as well. They were both very friendly, one of them, Dante didn’t live too far from mine, he was from Rusholme and had a cheeky smile. After they had helped her unpack, we all sat down to have some tea and biscuits and I always like to be hospitable to my guests.
But I have to say this, Dante was the most cutest guys I had seen in a very long time. He was slightly taller than me, very muscular from what I can tell, clean shaven but he had a rugged edge to him, he was smartly dressed and well spoken. He was also very polite and from the moment we had said hello we couldn’t stop talking. I didn’t feel I was talking to a complete stranger, he told me about his job, he’s a builder, his mum’s a nurse and dad was a retired mechanic. He’s not known Raeni for long and that she was a friend of his friend Franklin, the other guy who had come to help out.
I told him about my marriage, he listened in fascination and started laughing when I told him how I kicked him out. I started laughing as well and we laughed together for ages.
We sat in the lounge talking for about four hours, I don’t know where the time flew. Franklin had left by then and we hadn’t even noticed. I told him that I was thinking about getting my bathroom done, it was the only room in the house that needed updating, the avocado 70s bathroom suite really needed throwing out! So he took my number and told me he’ll ring with a quote.
It’s not everyday when you meet someone like that, I meet many people every week, and I don’t often sit with them for three hours talking about everything. I don’t often fancy them either, but there was instant chemistry between us.
Dante left the house leaving a huge smile (well more like a grin) across my face. And you know what as i’m writing this I am still smiling.
Anyway he rang a few days later to give me a quote on the bathroom, but we didn’t even get to discussing that, instead he has invited me out to dinner in the weekend and I said yes.
I know people have said to give myself some time, some man free time, which I was planning on doing, but I wasn’t expecting to get asked out on a date so quickly. Earlier on I was being told that I had no chance of settling with a Bangladeshi man from the UK and even though I threatened to go out with someone who was non-bengali, I wasn’t expecting it to happen so soon.
When I told my friends, they kept on pointing out that he was black. But when I saw Dante I didn’t even notice his skin colour, I saw a very nice man who took interest in me for who I am and wasn’t bothered that I had been married, he was interested in me. Through my excitement I ignored the calls to be careful, to make sure no-one sees me because that will be scandalous – dating between the two communities is practically unheard off! Some older people even call it the last taboo!!!!!
But I honestly can’t wait for the weekend, I have felt so lonely for so long (even when I was married I have always felt like a singleton) and now someone nice has taken an interest in me!

AFTER a month of public voting radio presenters Raj and Pablo finally revealed the BBC Asian Network Film Café Award winners – the only audience voted online Bollywood award in the UK.
A- Lister Shah Rukh Khan won the Best Villain award for his controversial performance in the remake of classic Bollywood film ‘Don’. His performance in Don received as many criticisms as it did applaud. Shah Rukh was asked how now felt vindicated in light of the public votes that he received.
Shah Rukh said, “No, you feel vindicated if you believe in the people who give the negative reactions and I never believe in that because it was very clearly a modern day combined with the old Don version and it was targeted at an audience, which may not have seen the old Don. We can just assume that the older audience did not like the film but the younger audiences, who we aimed the film at really enjoyed it. I feel I did a good job and I liked what I did in Don.
Shah Rukh was even more defiant towards his critics when he spoke to Film Café about his role in Khabhi Alvida Naa Khena, where he plays an adulterous husband. He remarked,
“I have been working for many years …I get surprised that critics get confused between the actor and the role. In Khabhi Alvida Naa Khena I play a guy who is not nice, sleeps with someone else’s wife but that’s a character. You play a grittier character the critics have a problem with that. It’s the ticket paying audience that counts at the end of the day”.
Amir Khan, voted Best Actor in the awards, spoke exclusively to Film Café to explain why these awards mean more to him than industry voted exclusively saying:
“I’m overwhelmed by the response of the audience. It was a difficult film to do as an actor. I am really moved by the response. Film and award ceremonies are so subjective and I don’t take award nights serious – the film has been made for the audience and they have loved it and that is of prime importance to me.”
Rang De Basanti has done particularly well, winning the overall vote in four of the eight categories.
Other proud winners include:
Best Film – Rang De Basanti with 28% of the vote
Best Soundtrack – Don: The chase begins again with 27%
Best Actor – Amir Khan in Rang De Basanti with 29%
Best Actress – Rani in Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna with 23%
Best Supporting Actor – Abhisekh Bachan in Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna with 32% Best Supporting Actress – Soha Ali Khan in Rang De Basanti
Best Director - Rakesheye Mehra for Rang De Basanti and Karan Johar for Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna both with 27% of the votes each
Best Villain – Shah Rukh Khan in Don with 44% of vote

STAR One enters the New Year with a promise to make evenings more entertaining. For over 2 years, Star One has redefined and created popular genres of programming, from reality to dance and from comedy to drama.
From February to 3rd June, Star One will bring a whole new experience to TV audiences with the launch of Antakshari – The Great Challenge, showing Friday to Sunday at 8pm.

The show will be produced by Gajendra Singh, the creator of some of the biggest shows on television. In its new avatar, Antakshari – The Great Challenge, will see new inclusions to the format and an exciting reality aspect. Annu Kapur, the man synonymous with Antakshari, will host this musical extravaganza with Juhi Parmar star of Kumkum Pyara Sa Bhandan featured on STAR Plus.
Commenting on the association, Gajendrra Singh, Sai Baba Productions, said, “I have always looked at opportunities to connect with viewers and this show synergises with Star One’s commitment of delivering entertaining and unique content. We have added new elements to the show which I am sure will be appreciated by the viewers.”
The much-loved Antakshari will get a fresh new twist that will keep the nation buzzing. Engaging a wide cross section of audiences, the show promises to enthrall all.
On the launch, host Annu Kapur said, “This unit is family to me, I take this opportunity to congratulate Gajendrra and I wish him all the best. I am extremely delighted that he asked me to host the show. I can’t wait to get back on the floors and hear Gaj say ‘Action’!” Co-host Juhi Parmar said: “I enjoy acting, but nothing feels better than being able to interact with a live audience…that too on a grandeur platform like Antakshari, where I get to share the stage with none other than the Annu Kapur.”
Since its launch, Star One has been wowing audiences with a diverse line up of shows that take viewers away from the regular fare that is available on TV today. Popular Star One shows such as Nach Baliye 1 & 2, The Great Indian Laughter Challenge, The Comedy Show Ha Ha Ha, Sssh Phir Koi Hai, Mano Ya Na Mano have given viewers an all-new television viewing experience.

THE new series of popular chat show Koffee with Karan with leading filmmaker Karan Johar has returned to STAR One. The launch episode featured star guests King Khan and the Queens of Bollywood, Kajol and Rani in a stimulating tête-à-tête with the flamboyant director and his best friends.

Slick, stylish, candid and witty, the show has it all, and with the industry’s best onscreen trio, the banter just can’t get any better! Shah Rukh, Kajol and Rani came together on screen after a period of ten years after Karan’s directorial debut, Kuch Kuch Hota Hain and they still managed to recreate the same magic!
Kajol and Rani discussed the media speculation that they do not get along though they are members of the same family whilst Shah Rukh talked about the mid-life crisis he is going through, the constant comparison with Amitabh Bachchan and the rumours about his relationship with Karan!
The three superstars were outwitted by the host in the rapid fire round, in which they stars are made to answer the toughest of the questions. What would they do if they woke up one morning and found out that they’ve turned into Karan Johar? Will Shah Rukh choose between Kajol or Rani? Will Rani choose between Shah Rukh or Aamir? The winner then wins the coffee hamper basket!
EXCERPTS FROM THE INTERVIEW:
Karan- You’re cousins but is there a wide gap between you in real life?
Rani- No!
Kajol- Not really! No!
Karan- So you’re literally meeting after 10 years on a sofa?
Rani- On a sofa?
Kajol- Yeah! It was chairs earlier! (Laughs)
Karan- Alright! But there is always this kind of media speculation that you don’t get along and though you’re members of the same family there is no interaction!
Kajol- It is really nothing like that! Basically it’s more like she’s Tanisha’s age. So for me it’s another generation really! For me she is like a younger sister!
Rani- And I was always closer to Tanisha, than to her.
Karan- Shahrukh you have no problems with anybody?
Shahrukh- I don’t have time to have any problems with anybody!
Karan – Other heroes go through affair issues and with their other liaisons with their heroines and you are just constantly fighting with men, not women. You are only linked with men, not women!
Shahrukh- I truly am the last action hero!
Karan- If Shahrukh, Kajol and you were on a plane which was about to crash and there were only two parachutes on board, which you had control over, what would you do?
Kajol- Dude, I’m family!
Rani- I would probably stay behind and give the two parachutes because, really, people want to see them together!
Kajol- Stop! Please Stop!
Shahrukh- Tum dono mujhe chipak jaana .. teeno neeche aa jayenge! Kya hai problem yaar! Main Hoon na!

AMID the huge youthful ensemble cast of the eagerly awaited romantic comedy, Honeymoon Travels.., the veteran Shabana Azmi stands out as the only senior actor who seems to be having as much fun as the youngsters!
“It’s a special film because my kids [Farhan Akhtar & Zoya Akhtar] have put it together,” she smiles. “It’s a remarkably heart-warming film. You will walk out a smile. During the 45-day shoot in Goa everyone had a ball. The kids were so professional and organised. I’m extremely proud of them.”
Shabana is extremely impressed with director Reema Kagti and does not contain her words in singing paeans of her. “Reema is focused yet easy-going. Her biggest strength is that she always has an alternative if the original idea does not work out.”
Ask Shabana about her co-star Boman Irani and her much talked about kiss! “Boman was absolutely wonderful. He’s a livewire and an ardent movie buff. As for the kiss, please don’t make too much of it. It’s a short, sweet and innocent kiss. Boman was terrified before that scene,” she laughs.
Honeymoon Travels… releases on February 23.

HE may not have been noticed much in his previous films like Bachke Rehna Re Baba and Yun Hota To Kya Hota, but Akshaye Khanna’s cousin, Karan hopes that director Reema Kagti’s Honeymoon Travels Pvt. Ltd. will bring him joy.

Vinod Khanna’s handsome nephew who plays a flashy Punjabi husband to Ameesha Patel in this romantic comedy gives his take on his next venture to be released on February 23:
What was your first reaction when you were offered to play the part of Vicky Kapoor in Honeymoon Travels Pvt. Ltd?
It made me the happiest man on earth! So dazzled was I by Reema Kagti’s narration of my part that I even dissuaded her from sending me the script! I just said yes!
How did the concept of six couples going on a package tour for their honeymoon appeal to you?
I have been to Goa and seen these buses ferrying honeymooning couples all over. It’s not a bad idea at all as the trip turns out to be pretty cheap. And tell me when couples go for a honeymoon on their own it’s not that they are completely isolated, there are always people around. Only here you communicate a bit more with your fellow travelers!
You and Ameesha play an over-the-top Punjabi couple in Honeymoon Travels………….
Yes, we are this mad, chilled out couple from Delhi who do everything, whether it is in the way we talk, dress or eat, in an outlandish and exaggerated manner. Like Ameesha is in pink… from her hair pins to her salwar kameez to her toe nails! Then I am the one who wears this quaint cap and our Punjabi accented Hindi will make everyone laugh…… Actually Reema had worked out every couple’s mannerisms, talk and clothes to the minutest detail. And each is more wacky than the other!
Which other couple’s track did you like?
All the six tracks are great, but I think more than the concept, it is the execution which is more important. I have not seen the film but I know for sure that Raima as a typical Bengali housewife has done a superb job, Shabana Azmi as this elderly Muslim woman is brilliant, Dia Mirza as the Gujarati lady is so quaint. In fact each actor is outstanding in his own way. Now we all have to wait and watch the film to see which couple stands out the most!
More than a dozen artistes shooting together for 50 days in Goa for Honeymoon Travels….. what was the experience like?
Awesome, to say the least! We were all like one big family going to the gym together, playing badminton in the evenings, gorging on typical Goan cuisine and listening to each other’s experiences. The best part was during the free time we had while shooting in the bus when we had a ball playing dumb sharads.
What is Reema’s forte as a director?
Reema is not only as competent as any male director, she also has the added advantage of being female, as women are definitely more sensitive with subjects like romance and marriage. Her execution of sensitive scenes, like the love scene between Raima and Kay Kay, is very touching. Then she has her wacky side too which is displayed in the various dance sequences picturised on Shabana, Kay Kay and Ameesha! She has also added a bit of mystery and intrigue, which I cannot reveal. The film is a complete package on the whole!
What are your expectations from Honeymoon Travels…?
Huge! Not only me, but every actor in the film will get a boost, as it is the first time that such a wacky comedy has been made.
What are your other forthcoming ventures?
I am looking at a lot of projects. Basically I am interested in doing films which bring about a lot of self-realization, and real cinema which are made after a lot of thought and research. Like Honeymoon….. which deals with real life situations. They are put across in a light-hearted way, but the situations and moments couples are likely to face on their honeymoon are definitely there for all to see!
Your word to the audiences abroad?
Please go and watch Honeymoon Travels Pvt. Ltd or you could miss out on some colour, spice and many things nice!
(HONEYMOON TRAVELS releases worldwide on February 23. For complete cinema listings visit www.studio18india.com)

Bollywood stars Sharmilla Tagore and Saif Ali Khan will be among the guests honouring the hard work and fundraising efforts of some remarkable students at the glamorous Wings of Hope Annual Ball, hosted by BBC Asian Network Presenter, Anita Rani.
The Wings of Hope Achievement Awards will be judged on 15 March and the winners announced at the Ball. The Wings of Hope Annual Ball will take place on: Saturday 24 March 2007 at The Ballroom, London Marriott Hotel, Grosvenor Square, London.
The Wings of Hope (WOH) project offers support to orphaned and poor children in India and Malawi by providing them with a free education. The WOH projects emphasise student development in a way that contributes to the emergence of a complete individual.
For more information about WOH and the event then log onto www.thewingsofhope.org.

I was woken up last night by a banging on my door. Startled I looked out of the window to see this Bengali man standing outside my door. I recognised him and stupidly went to open the door thinking something had happened and he had come round to give me some bad news.
So I slightly opened the door and asked what he wanted. He told me he heard that I had recently separated from the ex and he told me that it was the best thing that I did. I looked at him confused thinking why is he at my house telling me this.
I said thank you and was about to close the door again when he said to me that he knew things about my ex that he thought I should know as well. I told him that I really didn’t care anymore, thanks for the concern and was about to close the door again when he quickly tells me he’s heard about my services.
My ears pricked up and I asked him what services? He said to me, “You know what I mean?”
I told him I didn’t.
He then said: “You know, we all know your husband told us about you and why he left you. It’s because of all the men that come over at night.”
I asked him if that’s the reason he was at my house and he nodded his head. If this conversation was taking place in the daytime I swear to god I would have punched the daylight out of him, little me might not look strong but I do know how to throw a good punch! But it was 3am and with nobody around I banged the door shut in his face and shouted that i will call the police if he ever turned up at my house again and that he will be hearing from my family tomorrow.
My mum knew his mum and his wife so there was no way I was going to let him get away with this.
I’m so pissed off though, m,y blood is boiling, I want to know a few heads together, kick in a few balls (you know what I mean). The ex is a piece of shit that has been going around saying that I’ve been sleeping around with men and this perverted little bastard turned up at my house wanting sex. I’m so angry. I wanted to ring my parents up last night but decided to wait till this morning to tell them.
I would love to just have turned up at this guy’s house and have a go at him and embarrassed him in front of his family, but they will just turn around and tell me to eff off. However, if I go with my family, especially my dad, they will have no choice but to listen and believe what I had to say. I want an apology, I want him to fall on his hands and feet and beg my for my forgiveness and I will tell him he can forget it and calmly walk out of the house and then I will make sure everybody knows what this man did last night.
As for the ex, short of chopping his balls off and sending it to his family in Bangladesh, I am still planning on an elaborate little revenge on the short ass, any ideas will be appreciated by the way, I really want to embarrass him, I know a lot of people will say to me to be a bigger person and let it go, I know the rumours are not true, but the rumours that he is spreading are disgusting and it hurts and the worst part is that people believe it and are now turning up on my doorstep, how can I ignore that?
Why are people so quick to always point the finger at the girl? They’ll believe in anything. I remember the time the ex came home from work and started telling me about this girl I know and how she was having threesomes with her friends. I just did not believe it, but it was a rumour that started in the kitchen of restaurant and all these men believed every single word. The poor girl, her only mistake was that she had said no to a guy who asked her out. He then went onto say he had gone out with her and they took part in threesomes all the time. You see the vicious people that I am dealing with. I honestly feel like just selling up my house and getting a luxury apartment in the city centre……..hmmmmmm sounds nice actually, I’ll be out of the way and like they say out of sight out of mind!
ARGHHHHHHHHH am really really beginning to hate men, well I really hate these mangoes. The man that tuned up at my house wasn’t a British born Bangladeshi, majority of lads I know would not even dream of it, it was a bloody mango whose been in this country for about three years and thinks he’s all that now, well I’ll show him this afternoon, he’s gonna wish he’d never step foot in Britain. Plus people will hear about it and know not to mess with me and go around gossiping about me either!!!!!!!!!! I hope.

BEFORE I start I just want to say thank you to everybody who has supported me with their comments. It really has been encouraging.
It’s now day 4 of singledom and I am enjoying every minute of it.
Even when at lunch time I saw the ex walking around holding hands with some teenage girl in the Arndale centre – the aim I think was to make me jealous with rage – but all he achieved from doing this was to prove to me even more that he really is a wanker and a very sick one who thinks walking around with a 16-year-old is cool. It was just so pathetic.
And you know what – he was even talking to her in very bad broken English. I never heard him ever utter a word in English up until today, but now he was going all out. When I went into a shoe shop, he followed in behind me and asked the girl to choose any shoe she wanted and he’d pay for it.
Their conversation went something like this;
the ex: You choose
the girl: Whatever I like?
the ex: yes you choose, I buy……..sexy
the girl: Ok
the ex: me then your boyfriend
the girl: How about these designer trainers
the ex: yes design nice, me your boyfriend
the girl: can we go to another shop
After which point I left laughing to myself. I can’t wait to tell my mum tonight!
His family from Bangladesh rang me today. His mum was wailig over the phone to forgive her son. His dad promised that the ex will treat me well if I just took him back. I reminded them that they too had a daughter and would not put up with it. But the ex’s mother carried on crying thinking that she will strike some sympathy from me but it just wasn’t working. My mum was pleading with her eyes not to be rude over the phone. It was hard to be polite. The ex’s father said to go and live with them in Bangladesh for a while – I told him it was OVER and that they just had to get use to it. I then pretended that there was a fault in the line and put the phone down.
My poor dad has had to put up with people gossiping about me. The boyfriend rumour has circulated very fast. My dad was being told that I should have been locked up in a house and that he should have let the ex beat me up to teach me a lesson for cheating.!!!!!!
My dad is usually a calm man but when people start talking to him like that about his daughter, he won’t stand for it and one look in his eyes was enough to stop people from talking any further.
In don’t remember such fuss when the girl a few doors down broke up with ther husband. But then she was wearing a scarve over her head, was a housewife and therefore could not have done anythign wrong. But me, who was quite the opposite, was getting all the blame just because I looked modern.
It’s no wonder I wanted to move out to a more “quiter” area as I told mum last night, advising that they should do the same.
A friend of the family is going Bangladesh soon. She is taking her son and daughter with her and will get them both married. I heard her telling my mum. I couldn’t help but poke my nose in and asked her if it were the right thing to do?
I know the son. He’s got a white girlfriend, they’ve ben together since high school and I always thought they will end up married. He is now 25-years-old and is being bribed by the family to choose a good girl from back home. His granddad is ill and they keep on telling him that it was his wish to find a nice Bengali girl. I personally think he is a bit cowardish not to stand up to his family and let the love of his life go, but his mum really thinks she is doing the best thing for him.
His sister graduated in some chemistry degree last year. A very bright girl. They want her to marry her cousin on her dad’s side. His maximum education has been at GCSE level in Bangladesh. Definitely not a macth made in heaven. I tried explaing to their mum to think about the cultural differnces. What if her son did not bring the wife over and went back to his girlfriend? I asked her what kind of a life will her daughter have with an uneducated man? She kept on telling me not all fingers on one hand was the same.
If their mum does have her way and her kids marry abroad, I do hope they can work it out, but the chnaces are slim and I will like to see what happens a year down the line.